Does God Hate Gay People? Reclaiming the Truth Behind a Harmful Question. It’s one of the most painful and controversial questions in modern faith conversations: Does God hate gay people?

This question has harmed lives, broken relationships, and pushed people away from God. So let’s talk about it. Honestly. From a place of compassion, clarity, and humility.

The Truth About Judgment and Control

Here’s what I know: You are the CEO of your soul. You have the right to determine how you live, how you relate to God, and how you make spiritual decisions FOR you. (Philippians 2:12) No one (not me, not a church, not a pastor) gets to make that decision for YOU, because this is YOUR life.

Unfortunately, many Christians position themselves as gatekeepers of God’s love, deciding who is “in” and who is “out.” Especially when it comes to people in the LGBTQ+ community.

That’s not just wrong—it’s deeply hypocritical.

A Mirror on the Church: Let’s talk about Hypocrisy

Those who preach “law” instead of “love” are the loudest voices. But I suspect they are trying to drown out the cries of their own sins, from their own souls. Many of those who throw rocks are LGBTQ+ people are …

+ On their second, third, or fourth marriage (which, by the way, Jesus calls adultery).

+ Guilty of sexual misconduct. How many pastors have been having affairs or have sexually assaulted women in their church?

+ Watching porn, listening to explicit music, watching explicit tv, or leaving inappropriate comments online.

Meaning, many are hiding behind a mask of purity while carrying a load of unconfessed sin.

Before we start condemning others, we need to look inward instead.

If someone is seeking Jesus, they deserve to be welcomed at the well. Period. It doesn’t matter if they’re gay, trans, pansexual, or anything else. If they are coming to drink from the well of Christ, let them drink. You don’t block someone from water when they’re thirsty.

I don’t ever want to be the reason someone turns away from God.

Let’s not forget: there was a time when Gentiles (non-Jewish people) weren’t part of the early church mission. We were outsiders once. We were the ones someone had to fight to include. And now some of us have become the very gatekeepers we once needed grace to get past.

It’s time for the church to stop guarding the door and start holding it open.

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Final Thoughts: Reclaiming the Conversation

If the church has ever made you feel like who you are is wrong, broken, or unworthy…you are not unlovable.

You are seen.
You are sacred.
You are wanted.

Let’s shift the narrative. Let’s stop asking if God hates gay people and start asking how we can love like Jesus, radically, inclusively, and without hypocrisy.